Women who can't deal with men, who can't deal with the penis, are just immature, they're adolescent. I'm tired of it. I'm trying to bring a whole new kind of sexual sophistication to feminism, to allow even women who are openly lesbian, as I am with my lover, to say that we regard the penis as hot. It's natural for any woman, lesbian or not, to regard the penis as hot; your body naturally responds to that.
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I'm MTF transgender. Romantically and relationship-wise, I'm only drawn to females I guess that makes me lesbian since my gender is female. I also would rather be with a woman sexually too. However, here lies the problem: As I've been openly embracing my femininity and who I am as I begin my transition, I've left myself open to a whole range of new impulses, so to speak. Basically, I'm starting to desire things not desired prior —simply put, what I now deem the only useful and arousing part of a male. It's just a shame it has be attached to a man, LOL. And furthermore, am I just asking too much to have certain sexual needs satisfied? When it comes to sex, chemistry is not a science. Attraction is hard to predict — and it changes all the time, and for some more than others.
Before I start, I want to clarify something. This is a topic that has come up repeatedly within the last few years. It comes with connotations that are hard to look past. It has spurred on countless arguments because a few cis lesbians have willfully misinterpreted it. This is the perfect example of Poisoning the Well.
Last week, I found myself at Cafe Gratitude in Los Angeles, eating a gluten-free scone and fuming about gender, as one does in Life is more free now. Lori sipped her green juice and rolled her eyes. Claire admitted that this was not a bucket-list moment for her. I never thought this would be part of my life story, but here I am. I could never go back from this. She liked it far more than she expected to. For the next two months, the two met up for sex regularly. You have a lot of control, and that became very sexy to me.